What would you like to improve about yourself? Although we may not want to admit it publicly I think a lot of us feel like we could use an improvement in our self-confidence. There are actually quite a few practical tips you can use to raise your self confidence. Here are 24 of them.
Topics: Worst? Music, New, Plan, Exercise, Fear, Create, Fake it, Imitate, Enviro, Body, Memories, Future, Good, Mind, Social Skills, Outward, (+), U, Failure, Try Again.
Guidelines. As usual, with these Tip-lists, don’t try it all at once. Just try a few suggestions and see which ones work best for you. Some of them you’ll need to practice a bit before they start to pay off. It’s like playing a musical instrument or playing sports, it might not work too well at first but you’ll keep getting better with every try/practice. Many of these suggestions can only boost your confidence temporarily. But this can allow you to do something you may not have been able to do before. And as you do it, you build a deeper confidence in yourself. And collect & display proof of your accomplishment because of more self-confidence.
Ask yourself: “What’s the “worst” that could happen?
It’s easy to get lost in a vague fear – or very improbable scenarios – of what might happen if you go thru with something. When you really ask yourself what the worst thing that could happen, you get a clearer picture, a bit of fear vanishes & you discover that the potential consequences are seldom as frightening as you first thought. By doing this, you define the potential consequences & also discover that whatever might happen, you can manage & recover from it.
Use your favourite Music.
Use soothing, inspiring or motivating music to get yourself in a good mood, before that big event, test, meeting, etc. In other words, anything that might make your confidence not max. This works pretty well as both a temp & perm booster.
Try something New.
When you break out of your comfort zone and try something you haven’t before, you not only challenge yourself, bu you expand your own limitations & your confidence in your own abilities, in how many things you can actually do. By trying something new on a continual basis, you can also lessen your fears and live a life with less barriers & limitations and more – looking forward to the challenge.
Make a Plan to do something, then follow thru.
This is probably one of the most important & most effective ways to building lasting confidence. When you decide to do something and don’t back down but go through with it, you get proof of your often under-estimated capabilities, then your confidence in yourself grows.
If you want to build your confidence, use (+) Affirmations to “program your mind” to do what you want it to do. When you get into a situation, say the outcome you want. Be a little general, so you can allow for the circumstances that are the best for you. (ie, I want a parking place close to the entry, or in the shade or easy to get in & out of)
This one definitely makes an impact on my self confidence. Regular exercise improves your energy levels and produces various chemicals – for example testosterone & endorphins – that put you in a more positive state, give you more blood flow to the brain = more ideas. This seems to often almost automatically improve your confidence and outlook on life compared to if you spend your time on the couch, eating snacks and watching TV. Plus, getting in shape and looking better can be a powerful confidence-booster when you meet new Customers, Clients or Management.
Face a Fear.
This is not an easy one, but the reward is big. If you face a fear, then your confidence grows and it’s easier next time. And for every time you face a fear you can slowly start to discover that the classic quote “There is nothing to fear but fear itself”from President Roosevelt during WWII
Everyone is a “creative” person, but we sometimes forget that after youth and settle into a boring routine. Rediscovering your creativity is a good way to improve your confidence in yourself. Creating something is a wonderful, but not always easy experience. But when you’re done, you not only feel good about yourself, but sometimes you discover new, previously unknown parts of yourself. Being creative is good a way to get to know yourself and your hidden capabilities. Try to do something creative once a week.
Fake it, till you Make it !!!
One way to break out of your own self-imposed limitations is to take a step out of your comfort zone and build confidence is: “Play a part”. This might sound crazy, like it couldn’t work. It’s like you are just making things up and lying to yourself. Well, that might be the case, but it still works. If you don’t feel confident, “fake it” and play the part of how you would think & behave if you were confident. Soon you’ll really start to feel confident. The part becomes real. You’ve made it !!!
Imitate it to Make it. If you are having trouble seeing yourself as confident then imitate someone else. Find a confident person (ie, an athlete, movie star, leader), copy him/her. See how/she walks, talks, moves and carries him/herself. Then just imitate that behavior in your visualization.
Use your Environment.
One effective way to change yourself is to change your environment to match the person you want to become. If you want to become more confident (ie, read autobiographies/watch documentaries of confident people & try to find confident people to hang out with).
Use your Imagination.
Your mind is a great instrument. By learning to use your imagination in a (+) way, you can improve your confidence. One way is to use visualization. Let´s say to you have an important meeting coming up. Visualize how great the events will unfold – see & hear it – and also – how great will you feel during & after this meeting – when you get what you want. See yourself smiling, being positive, open + having a great time. See the excellent outcome in your mind. Then release all this by visualizing that it has already happened – the meeting is over with the desired result. This is surprisingly effective and will get you into a great & relaxed mood before even stepping into the meeting.
Use your Body.
If you start fidgeting,you’ll soon start to feel nervous or anxious. If you start to walk slower you’ll soon start to feel more relaxed. To feel more confident, use your body in more confident way. Walk, sit, stand & move in a more confident way. If you don’t know how, imitate as described in the previous tip. Copy how confident people in your surroundings, on the TV or at the Movies use their bodies to convey confidence.
Awash yourself in (+) Memories.
It’s a common bad habit to let previous failures & bad experiences go thru your mind, before you do something important. Replace that habit by actively letting (+) memories, accomplishments & experiences go thru your mind before the event. We often forget these (+) things and our minds become focused on the (-) memories. This is totally up to you. You have a choice. And the product of your choice is a factor in your level of self-confidence.
Take it into the Future.
One great way of putting things into perspective is to choose how much you let everyday happenings affect your confidence. Take a look from the future. Ask yourself: Will this be a big deal in 5 years or more that I can even remember? This takes you out of being wrapped up in what is happening now. The answer to the question is almost always a No. By using this question, it gets easier to handle your day to day troubles and realise that in a larger context, most stuff is small stuff, so you don’t really need to sweat. “Inspire instead of perspire !!!
Realise that the Future wont be the same as the Past.
What happened last year, last month or yesterday will not be the same as tomorrow, next month or next year. You create your future in the present and you can to a large degree decide for yourself, how much you let the past affect you & your future. Even if your confidence has been low, that does not mean that it has to stay that way. You can choose to change your future & life. You can let go of previous thoughts that have not been useful for you and that’s ok. You can choose new thoughts to think. This realization untangles your mind from a self-made prison, creates a sense of possibility + makes it easier to change negative thought patterns.
Be “good” to Yourself.
You might hard on yourself. Realize that there is no need for doing that. Even if you have done that up until today, you can choose to stop it !!! Be good to yourself instead. It’s ok. It’s allowed. An important part of being good to yourself is recognizing your strengths & developing them. This will not only helps to improve your skills, but also your confidence in your own abilities. Another – and smaller – but important – part is simply learning to accept a compliment. It’s ok to say Thank you, and feel good about yourself.
Learn about how your Mind actually works.
Everybody is different, but what is more important is, people share a lot of similarities in how their minds work. What has worked for others may work very well for you too. It’s quite enlightening to learn about different common patterns of thought. The process of getting to know yourself better will certainly increased your self confidence.
Improve your Social Skills.
Relationships is one of the most important areas of life and improving your Social Skills is one of the top things people want to learn. Improving your results in this area and finding a larger confidence in your social skill-set can be a really big boost for your overall sense of confidence.
Focus “Outward” instead of “Inward”.
Whether you are interacting with others or just by yourself, it’s good to try to keep the focus of your mind “outward” instead of “inward”. The problem with a focus Inward is – in many situations – that it makes you focus on how you look, what you just said or what the other person – or a whole bunch of people – thinks of you right now. This could reduce anyone’s confidence. Focusing outward is, besides being a good tip for keep your self-confidence up, also a good way to improve your Social skills
Hang out with a Positive (+) Crowd.
The people you hang out with can either drag you down or lift you up. Since we spend so much of our time with other people it’s important to keep (+) or at least reasonably neutral people around you as much as you can. One or a few (-) people can affect you in a big way and pull you down day after day.
Focus on a (+) intake of Info, Influence & Emotions.
Most of the News brings a bleak and negative picture of the world. Just like the people that surround you, the information that you take in from the News can affect you in big way. Don’t just stay passive and take it all in. Choose what you want to watch, hear & read. Choose what´s useful & beneficial for you. Choose what’s (+).
Positive (+) Thinking
Learning to see the world and your life through a more positive lens can be a bit difficult at first and may take some time. Especially if you’ve spent many years being bombarded with (-) things. When you’re in a situation, look for the (+) and what opportunities might be available.
Compare U to U. Not to others.
This will eliminate a lot of unnecessary pain in your life. The thing is, if you better one person, then you’ll just find another person more successful than you. And your brief sense of being a winner will now transform into disappointment. Focus on yourself, not the other people around you, no matter if they are more or less successful. Compare U to 2U. Improve yourself and see how you grow to become a more successful, more confident & happier person. Our only measure is, if we’ve don’t the best we could, with the talents we’ve been given.
How you view failure, controls how much your confidence drops before or after a failure. The definition of failure we are brought up with in society might not be the best or most useful to have. Remember, “Failure is the opportunity to begin again with more knowledge”. If you don’t fail, maybe you’re not trying to stretch enough.
Have an “Life is Abundance” mentality. You know that if your first efforts fail, it feels bad for a while, but it’s ok in the long run. They learn from the failure, then try again. If rejected by Customers, Partners or Funders, do you give up? Probably not. You know that next time may be when you find someone else that wants you, your product or service. Know that may have to and many others have failed many times before they succeeded.
Conclusion: You have work on your skills to sharpen them. See failure or rejection not as something incredible negative that might end your life if it strikes. Redefine it in your mind to lessen the negative emotional impact and the fear. See failure simply as feedback on what you need to improve on. Listen to the advice the failure gives you and you will improve. And, by redefining failure this way your level of confidence will not take a drastic drop every time you fail or fear failure.
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