How we can Succeed – to Reach our Goals !!!
by Author Heidi Grant Halvorson 04 July 13 enhanced by Peter/CXO Wiz4biz 5/14
No matter who they are and what they are trying to do, we find that successful people not only have confidence that they will eventually succeed, but are equally confident that they will have plenty of challenges to overcome in the process.
Visualizing, then Planning how to achieve it.
The optimal strategy to use when setting a Goal seems to be to think positively about how it will be, when you achieve your goal, while thinking realistically about what it will take to get there. First you imagine attaining your goal, and then 2nd you reflect on the obstacles that may stand in the way. Imaging turns wishes & dreams into reality, by bringing into focus what you will need to do – to make it happen. As you enjoy the pleasant feeling of imagined achievement and the sobering clarity of the challenges involved, don’t you feel the necessity to act, motivating you?
Not all Goals are created equal (=).
Not all goals lead to lasting feelings of true satisfaction & well-being. That’s because not all goals satisfy our needs to be accepted, competence & autonomy. Do goals that focus on personal growth, physical health, or self-acceptance – improving your weaknesses. Goals that have to do with contributing to your community or helping others also fulfill these needs are the best goals.
Poor Goals. Here are the goals that aren’t going to help you achieve lasting well-being:
1. Becoming famous.
2. Seeking power over others.
3. Polishing your public image.
4. Any goal that is related to obtaining other people’s validation & approval or external signs of self-worth isn’t going to do it for you, either.
5. Accumulating wealth for its own sake, also won’t lead you to real happiness
All that glitters isn’t gold. Goals that are all about obtaining external validation of self-worth (as mentioned above) not only won’t make you truly happy, but will actively diminish your sense of well-being, by interfering with the pursuit of goals that will really benefit you. If you have goals like these in your life, it’s time to rid yourself of them.
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